The Big 4 | Flirting Tips for the Ladies

Many people think a girl has to be drop-dead gorgeous like Cindy Sanyu, Genevieve Nnaji or Jackie Appiah to be really successful at flirting with a guy. The truth is this--anybody can do it. You just need to learn the basics in order to flirt correctly, impress the guy, and show him that you like him. Who knows? You might be surprised to find out that he likes you too.

Our African parents taught us to never chase a guy. He is to do all the work from point A to the very end. The typical setting is to see the dude lurking around the corner; if he is unlucky, he'll get caught in the rain without an umbrella while waiting for you to stroll by. We all know that times have changed; we (females) have to catch up with the changing times and meet the guy half way at least. Perhaps, there's one fine gentleman that is doing you strong ting like Banky W's song; here are some flirting tips to get the ball rolling.

1. Be conscious of your appearance

If you want to flirt with guys, the first thing that you need to pay attention is your physical appearance. It is not always necessary to dress provocatively, but you should wear something that looks elegant, clean, comfortable, and at the same time makes you feel confident. Remember, you don't need to have millions of expensive clothes to look beautiful because some simple fashions never go out of style. Try sporting dark, slimming jeans, a simple solid colored tank or cami, some chunky bead necklaces, or a cute sun dress.

Clean up, wear deodorant, shave frequently, clean your ears, and you could try to paint your nails. Also, try to wear your hair in a style that makes you feel pretty and use a perfume that smells sweet, but is not too overpowering. Don't mix perfumes--we don't want to have your neck smelling like cherry while your dress is smelling like agbalumo!

2. Act Right

There are multiple ways to act flirty, here are some of the best suggestions:

  • Compliments

Be sure to compliment them on things that are true. Sometimes people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is the total wrong thing to do. You really should compliment on things you really like, so you sound more sincere naturally.

  • Eye contact

The eyes can be your most effective tool for flirting. It's possible to make a guy's heart skip a beat by giving him a playful, lusty, or lingering stare. Here is how to do it:

If you're walking by someone you've got the hots for, give him a 2-3 second stare and then slowly glance away (slow is important). Smile just as you start to look away. He'll get the message.

Additionally, when you're talking to a guy you like, take a second to momentarily break away from his eyes and pause on his upper body or chest. Let 2 seconds pass. Then slowly move your eyes back up and make eye contact again. This will give him chills of excitement. He'll realize that you were checking him out...and he'll love it.

  • Hair Flip and Twirl

If you want to catch a guys attention, flip your hair casually over your shoulder (if you have hair). Twist it and then untwist it, tuck it behind your ears, or run your hands through it. If you're wearing a weave that's been styled to perfection, you might just want to leave it as is to avoid showing tracks while flipping and twirling.

  • Soft Giggle and Smile

According to polls, a laugh and a smile are the sexiest things a female can wear. If you perfect your smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will find some great results. Practice forcing a natural smile (at home first) and laugh, it can help through awkward situations.

  • Magic Touch

You can learn to brush a guy in such a way that you send tingles up and down his spine. Casually tap him while laughing, rest your head on his shoulder if you're tired and hold his hand when you're nervous; it will give him a sense of manliness and you a touch sweetie-pie, no pun intended.

3. Move Closer to Him and Start The Conversation

Approach him and start a light conversation to get things going, but don't make it too obvious that you like him. If he approaches you, look him in the eyes as a sign of affection and confidence. The best opening line is saying hello. Talk about what you have in common, talk about your surroundings, ask a question, ask for help, state an opinion.

4. Get To Know Him

After he has come up to you and both of you have started talking, just try to find out whether he is your type or not. If you feel comfortable with him, carry on with the evening. In case he is not your type, just excuse yourself politely from his company. However, remember that you are the one who led him on. Now if you don't feel up to it, don't get unnecessarily rude.

Lastly, if he's interested in you, don't just go immediately to be "best friends" or"boyfriend." Just start hanging out with him, and become friends, slowly become best friends, until it becomes even more! You want to make sure he is the right guy for you!

Good Luck, Ladies!

NOTE: Sarah Nichols is the author of the tips--we just added a little spice to appeal to our African readers. Hope you liked this, share it with someone!

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You must check out some great signs and tips for flirting for both guys and girls from the Fastest Guide to Flirting by Melinda Cox

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